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Parents... ugh.. I need some advice.
Posted 08-29-2009 at 07:32 AM by Kyon
Since I started high school my parents have been more strict on me (I'm asian so already you know they are going to be strict on school). I mean really strict and they have much more high standards. Mainly because I go to a special highschool program that can benefit my future a lot. Since over the summer I've been going to my friend's houses a lot (mostly around the end after they came back from their vacations) and I stay there around 9pm or maybe 10 at the latest which depends on the circumstances. So I've been punished a few times over the summer for not informing my parents I'll be going over maybe a few times and yes that is my fault.
Today I just had a fuss with my parents. They were telling me how unresponsible I am and telling me all my problems and yelling at me at the same time. They started giving me some rules that I need to follow until I'm 18. Until then I have to follow them.
-I can only go to my friend's house once every 3 or 4 weeks or so on weekands sunday and saturday and thats only if I tell a week ahead before i go.
-No videogames from now on except once a week on the weekands.
-Computer time is limited to whenever they say I have to get off.
-Go to bed at 9pm
Well you can see here they are taking away most of my freetime and pretty much my life. I'm a teenager after all and I have things to do. This whole week I've already stopped playing video games, limited and computer time on my own, and went to bed early just so I can at least see my friends once a week. I don't go to the same school as my friends because of this program so it would benice to see them and the kids at my new school live very far so my parents won't even think about me making friends there. I don't mind most of it but my friends are the only thing I still have to really have any fun at all. The weeks of school are miserable for me since I have nothing to do. I mean seriously... I do my homework and I study plenty what do they want me to do?
I can understand my parents being strict and my punishments and any teen would argue if they feel its unfair but don't you think is just stepping over the line too much? I need some serious advice or maybe something that can calm me down a bit because I'm just really bummed right now.
Today I just had a fuss with my parents. They were telling me how unresponsible I am and telling me all my problems and yelling at me at the same time. They started giving me some rules that I need to follow until I'm 18. Until then I have to follow them.
-I can only go to my friend's house once every 3 or 4 weeks or so on weekands sunday and saturday and thats only if I tell a week ahead before i go.
-No videogames from now on except once a week on the weekands.
-Computer time is limited to whenever they say I have to get off.
-Go to bed at 9pm
Well you can see here they are taking away most of my freetime and pretty much my life. I'm a teenager after all and I have things to do. This whole week I've already stopped playing video games, limited and computer time on my own, and went to bed early just so I can at least see my friends once a week. I don't go to the same school as my friends because of this program so it would benice to see them and the kids at my new school live very far so my parents won't even think about me making friends there. I don't mind most of it but my friends are the only thing I still have to really have any fun at all. The weeks of school are miserable for me since I have nothing to do. I mean seriously... I do my homework and I study plenty what do they want me to do?
I can understand my parents being strict and my punishments and any teen would argue if they feel its unfair but don't you think is just stepping over the line too much? I need some serious advice or maybe something that can calm me down a bit because I'm just really bummed right now.
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All I can say is that you're not alone. Indian parents are as strict, as my parents always do that.
"I mean seriously... I do my homework and I study plenty what do they want me to do?" I feel like that^ allll the time. |
 
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I'd say they did.
But I don't know what to tell you to do, really =/ Maybe sometime after they calm down some, you could try to have a nice calm talk? Ask them to let you talk to them. Ask them to let you finish what you would like to say before they say anything. And then tell them how you feel, without being harsh about it. From what I've heard, that works with parents. |
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well, they want you to have a good future, so know that they're doing this for your good. granted, they do take away a lot of freedom, but if you do something beyond what they say, maybe they'll be impressed and give you freedom.
and if that doesn't work, you can always do math ;D |
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Well whatever you did that made them do that in the first place you should try to correct that.
I have rules placed upon me as well, and they're based upon my behaviors and such, just like you. Mine are: School-days:
Weekends/no school days:
Before it used to be times a lot earlier than those posted above, but the behavior and such that I've shown my mom, she decided to give me more leeway and bump up my curfews. ...I didn't help, did I? =\ |
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well lets just say your parents gave you a lot more freedom than me.
For one thing, I'm a girl so i was never allowed out of the house passed 6pm. But as for video games, my parents didnt care. I was supposed to be in bed by 9-10 pm also. And as going to my friends house, i wasnt allowed to go if i didnt tell them (I still did i just made sure to be home before they got home) Parents are like that, I'm not going to tell you to disobey them, *cough cough* theres always a way to sneak around without them knowing *cough cough*, so just for now, show them that what they are doing it "working" Then they might be greatful and give you more time to do more things |
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Yeah I used to sneak around rules all the time. I got caught every now and then. I try to stop myself from doing it since I don't wanna take chances, and plus it's abusing your parents' trust. That's not a good thing to do at all.
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